i always thought the highest level of a relationship
based on regard for one another,
not on labels or status,
is whether or not love is ever-present.
Because after all,
one of God’s ultimate commandments
is to love one another–
He never said it would be easy.
But loving someone is a verb
its demonstrated through actions
through words of affirmation
& always showing up.
Love is putting someone else before you,
and embodying the care & utmost respect
you could have for someone else.
Liking someone, however?
that’s a feeling.
it comes from judging a person’s character,
weighing it against your own ideals.
its demonstrated through the ease of having common ground
You could strive to love your neighbor,
but do you ever have to like her & her love of stray cats,
& late night, pot-perfumed, porch parties?
it seems to precede love–
but isnt it really its own making?
i think in most of my relationships,
i didn’t take the time to figure out whether i even liked the guy,
before committing to his lifestyle,
& because i had done all that so fluidly
i reasoned, i must’ve been in love.
because the actions of the word were all present.
Now i have a man,
who’s taken a year and a half to be mine
but i can say, honestly, i thoroughly love him.
But now that love’s been declared
& commitment’s been pronounced
i’m not so afraid of not loving him
as i am of not liking him.
because love is an action,
& i am a gold-star follow-through-er.
but will i like him while doing so?